Tag Archive | respect

The World is not Black and White

untitledGod grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Everyone is different.

There are some differences that are simple. Some are more complex.
There are differences that are tied to self-identity. Sexual orientation, race, age, sex, background and interests. When someone has a problem with differences in these areas, it is often something that runs deep in their upbringing and is very hard to change.
Accepting differences can be difficult at times – yet – respecting others for their differences in necessary.

Why do we want everything to be our way? Because we’re human and selfish. But to progress and survive in a society, we need to be tolerant of each other, whatever the other person believes in, as far as religion or any other matter is concerned, is individual choice. The world is not black and white, and the sooner we realise that, the sooner will we see progression in our societies, and who knows, perhaps even world peace.

People are so busy disliking each other’s ways of life, that all they do is point fingers at how wrong others are, and all the positive and creative energy that the Universe has endowed us with goes to waste.People get distanced from each other due to intolerance; and when they don’t unite to work towards their betterment and that of others, the society plunges into darkness and despair. No one want to help or like anyone who does not conform to his or her own specific standards of piety or correctness.

This self-righteous attitude has never brought people together as it hurts the feelings of those who do not believe what others want them to believe. It is indeed a sad state of affairs when everyone feels they are right and others are wrong and deserves to be disrespected. If animals can live together in a jungle and respect each others rights and territories and only kill for survival, why can’t we humans, who are the most supreme species learn to live with each other in peace and harmony?

Maybe I’m writing this post after reading and watching of the horrific civilian attack in Nairobi over the weekend, I was appalled! As human beings , we are born with a free will, and have the right to choose what religion or persons we want to be associated with. If one thinks one is following the right and true path, the way to make others agree is to be an exemplary human being or try to be, so that others will automatically want to be like you. They will reform or change their opinions without one having to insult, criticize or kill for that matter.

In today’s fast changing and globally shrinking world in which different races, religions and cultures have to interact on a day-to-day basis, the only way to exist in peace is to accept and tolerate differences.

Advertisements

The Dash

“What will be left of all the fearing and wanting associated with your problematic life situation that every day takes up most of your attention? A dash – one or two inches long, between the date of birth and date of death on your gravestone” – Ekhart Tolle

Live

On any tombstone, you will see two dates; the date of birth and the date of death. All that seperates those dates is a Dash. Just a simple, single line that represents everything that person did from birth to death.

I don’t know how long my Dash of life will be, no one really does. For some, it’s a quick sprint while others have a long, long journey. But, I can have an impact of what that Dash represents on my own tombstone to people that I’ve met along the journey of my life, the people who knew me and shared my life. I can try to understand and feel for other people. I can be accepting of differences. I can keep to my word. I can be quicker to smile and slower to anger. I can show respect and be ready to lend a hand. I can live every day as if it were my last, for every passing day is a day closer to the date after my Dash.

Things that Inspires me

Inspiration: Stimulation of the mind or emotions to a high level of feeling or activity.Flowers

What inspires you? What inspires you to be e better person or to seek the unknown? It can be something as simple as a blooming flower or as profound as an insight that changes the way you view life. In these times, with a volatile economy, the wars on crime and drugs, the high divorce rate, the abandonment of children, we can all certainly use a little inspiration!

My List; Let’s start at the beginning:

-Babies: There is something about the innocence of a baby, they’re tiny, chubby cheeks, perfectly developed fingers and toes, their little pink tongues, and their innate knowledge that they are safe in their mother’s arms, that’s inspiring.

-Love: The love I feel for myself and for others allows me to constantly work to be a better person. Little expressions of love and respect that are witnessed between two people who do not know they being watched are just inspiring.

-My Country: Yes, we have our fair share of political drama, crime, our not-so-good national soccer team, but we do have a beautiful country, our diverse cultures and phenomenal people.Becoming a better citizen gives me hope for a better generation to follow.

-Seasons: The changing of seasons-out with the old, in with the new; tiny blooms, hot sun and crisp autumn leaves, all evoke strong feelings of new beginnings and helps me to remember that change is good and inevitable.

-Art: Art of all kinds, paintings, music, or poetry, can unite and inspire humanity and can comfort and restore the lonely and exploited souls.

-Books: As a lover of books, I cannot resist the smell of the pages in a new book! It is warm and crisp and oddly sweet and dusty. It creates an excitement knowing each chapter holds new inspiration.

-Random acts of kindness: A door being held open for me when I’m 10 feet away, a helping hand when mine are  full, even a smile of acknowledgement all inspire me to “pay it forward” and help the next person.

-Excercise: Ah!If I could just bottle that feeling I get from a good run, I could conquer the world, or at least that pile of washing that was left in the basket, not ironed!

-Writing: The inner workings of my mind as I process thoughts into written words. It often inspires deeper thinking, a looking inward, and constant re-evaluation of who I am and who I want to be.

-Healthy senior citizens: Now this is something that I could see a hundred times a day, and feel inspired a little more each time.When I’m at the gym, seeing an older person run twice the distance that I did, or gliding on the elliptical like it’s natural (I hate that thing!) That’s inspiration right there!

Inspiration comes in so many forms and most times when you least expect it. What inspires you? Seek and find your inspiration and then spread your wings and soar!

Increase your quality of Life

It helps to know what ‘quality of life’ means to you. It’s an intensely personal question. Your vision of quality may differ from that of mine, and that’s what makes the world such an intriguing beast. We’re fascinating in our differences.

I may value connections, authenticity and adventure; dream of kids, a thriving business, founding a charity, and you might be driven by success, learning and independence; you won’t be complete until you hit CEO and make Forbes list.
I have decided to put down the things that I think can increase any life;

1. Spend time with your thoughts. Call it what you want, meditation, time out, whatever. I think it’s important to take time to reflect as this helps to put things into perspective.

2. Learn something new. I’m not saying go learn a new language (which isn’t a bad idea), but read up on something that you wouldn’t normally read, and share this with someone, (trust me, your brain will thank you) and give yourself an instant confidence boost!

3. Leave the routine. Even for just a minute a day. (And that’s coming straight from a Routine QUEEN!) Truth be told, when I do break out of it, it feels really good! (It’s still hard to bend the “rules” though).

4. Spend time outside. This is something I love to do, although I don’t  I get to do it as much as I would like to. I personally feel that this simple act instantly reduces stress.

5. Give yourself. Mentor, contribute, practice random acts of kindness, express gratitude. Give your time, be fully present for your family, change the world. There are a million ways to give of yourself. Do it big, do it small, just do it.  It’s one of the most positive equations in the world: You give of your time or resources, which improves someone’s quality of life, which makes you feel needed and valuable, which in turn improves your quality of life. We’re all better off.  Magic.

6. Connect with people. We are social beings. Pay special attention to your family, your partner, your friends, and your colleagues.  Explore and strengthen your connection to a Higher Power.  And be open enough to enjoy the spontaneous connections that come from making a new friend at the gym or sharing a witty remark with stranger at the supermarket.  Genuine curiosity and kindness are an amazing way to foster connections.

7. Celebrate. We all need a healthy dose of play in our lives. this fuels our creativity and feeds our spirits. Celebrating is a wonderful way to share love. Celebrate with traditions, with heartfelt compliments, with notes in lunch bags, with surprises, with big evenings out, or with cozy evenings in.

8. Recognize what makes you happy. Reflect on the parts of your day that bring you real satisfaction. Everyone is working towards something, but what makes you happy now? Try to incorporate more of what made you happy yesterday into today.

9. Love yourself. Treat your body with respect and care. Help yourself age well by staying flexible, protecting your skin from sun and exercising your mind.  Most importantly, sleep well.

10. DO NOT STRESS!

images: Google.com