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Learning to be Happy

Although most people believe happiness is essential, it is often dependent on factors outside of themselves.
From what I have learned, is that happiness has less to do with your circumstances! And all the happiness you will ever need resides within you. Finding happiness within, is not discovered overnight, nor is it something that is taught to you. But it can be discovered by changing our thinking and habits.Here I will share a few of my guidelines used on my journey to being happy!

Be the optimist – After reading The Secret in 2006, I have made a decision; I will never, or at least try, to never be the pessimist. The Laws of Attraction made a lot of sense, and I decided, that is how I will go through life. By being the optimist, I choose to see the bright side. All the obstacles or hard times I’m faced with is seen as temporary. And yes, sometimes it’s not easy, but I’ve learned to respond to life’s challenges with confidence knowing that I can handle them. When problems or challenges are resolved,I usually look back on them and try to make sense of it, sort of, find the meaning and purpose. By doing this, I noticed that each obstacle or challenge makes it easier to be optimistic about, because I know that they’re there for a reason, even if I may not know what it is now.

Happiness is a choice – Choose to be happy! To increase inner happiness, I have learnt to make a deliberate decision to do so. A lot of times we blame others for our unhappiness. And we are all guilty of that, we have all blamed parents, teachers, bosses, because it’s easier to push the responsibility onto someone else. Stop! We alone are responsible for our actions, and reactions! Whether we’re in unhappy relationships, or unhappy in our jobs, the unhappiness still lies within ourselves. You have a choice, to stay and be unhappy, or change your attitude! And the attitude comes from within. And its this attitude that determines whether we’re going to be happy or not!

Clear the clutter – This is by far one of the hardest things to do, but its well worth it – Clear your mental clutter!and make more room for happiness. Of all the things that require your mental energy, make the distinction between things that are really important and things that are not. Actively release thoughts, worries, resentments, etc. that consume your mental space. Without unnecessary things to clutter your mind, you’ll have more room for things that add to your joy.

Enjoying nature – Bridal veil falls – Sabie

Live your Bliss – We all have that one or two things that makes us extremely happy! If you still do not know what it is, take time out, observe yourself, learn what makes you truly happy, and add more of it to your life. It is that simple.
Recognize your passion, respect your goals! Find things that bring you happiness, and do them in your own unique way.

Stop comparing – And trying to keep up with the Joneses. That is the number one cause of our own unhappiness. Having things might make you appear trendy and happy to everyone else, but it doesn’t make you happy inside. But happiness, as the saying goes, is not in getting what you want, but in wanting what you already have!

Give – I saved this one for last, because this one is the easiest, and hardest!(for many people) By giving, it doesn’t have to have any monetary value. It can be anything from a compliment to a smile, a hug or a pat on the back! When you make someone else happy, you find yourself being twice as happy inside!

You now know how to find happiness within yourself, and it is something you can access all the time regardless of your circumstance or situation. Be an optimist, intentionally choose to be happy, clear your mind of unnecessary clutter, and find ways to nurture your own unique bliss. This simple strategy will allow you to access your inner joy at all times.