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Our Fallen Hero – Oscar

2012 Virgin Active Sports Industry AwardsJust a week ago, Oscar Pistorius was just the “Blade Runner” to every South African, double amputee Paralympic medalist and first amputee runner to compete in the Olympic Games, an inspiration to millions all over the world. The positive approach that he has is incredible. He was once quoted saying “You’re not disabled by the disabilities you have, you are able by the abilities you have”

 
And then, last Thursday February 14 2013, Oscar was painted with a different brush.On the 8am news bulletin, I heard that Oscar has accidentally shot and killed his girlfriend, mistaking her for a burglar! And the first thing I though was what a terrible tragedy. With each news bulletin, a different version of the alleged murder was revealed.
Within hours, social networks were flooded with comments, remarks, and jokes about the runner. People simply forgetting that a life was lost! Forgetting that Reeva Steenkamp was someone’s daughter! Forgetting that just months ago, we set glued to television sets, waiting anxiously to watch Oscar participate at the Olympics.

Then I had an epiphany – We find it easier to deal with fiction, than it is dealing with the truth. Maybe that’s how many people react to shock. And shock was the emotion that was felt by every South African as well as myriads around the world.
It’s been five days since the news broke to the world, and it’s unbelievable as to how many “incidents” about the runners’ personal life is surfacing; His love for fast cars, wild animals and guns. Is that not typical male interest? But do we admire a man who keeps a machine gun in the house? Whether he killed his girlfriend accidentally or deliberately?

Limiting ourselves to his behaviour on the track, many people lost some admiration for him at the London Paralympic games. He was beaten fairly by a Brazilian athlete, and his immediate response was to accuse his rival of cheating. There was no cheating. After a word from his team,(no doubt mentioning his $2 million a year sponsorship deals), backtracking followed, and an apology was made. But some of us wondered why, exactly, we were expected to admire this person.

Sportspeople are routinely held up as role models or, when they fall short, regarded as people who have fallen short and stopped being the role models that they surely could be. Sport is at the centre of our moral universe, sportspeople are a force for good. Everyone should admire and emulate them, right?

It would be easy to say that people like Pistorius are rare: that most sports stars offer great role models to young people. But then there is Lance Armstrong, barely apologising after years of drug-taking and violent threats against people in cycling who were the slightest bit curious.
Tiger Woods, and his infamous cheating scandal. There is John Terry, who was captain of the England football team when he was found to have called Anton Ferdinand a “fucking black c**t” – And after the hero’s career is over? The role model may end up like Mike Tyson?

Of course, sport is full, too, of decent and honourable people. With the likes of Pele, doing great things for Africa. David Beckham, clearly he thinks of how he can behave well, to society as well as to his family. They are worth our admiration. But then, seriously – OJ Simpson? Diego Maradona?

Aiming to find role models in sport is a dangerous business. Sportsmen seem no better behaved on the whole than any other segment of the entertainment business, with the distinction that strippers, on the whole, don’t talk piously about their duty to be “role models” or how much everyone admires them when they are arrested for killing their partners.
But even if the topic of our admiration is as well-behaved as anyone might wish, is it really the best object to present to our children for their aspiration? Children should be encouraged into libraries, to extra-mural studies, to regard revolutionaries, poets, painters, thinkers, doctors, professionals as their heroes worthy of their aspiration. They will most likely lead useful and productive lives.

The individual case is terribly sad – a young woman has been killed, and proves that the abuse of women occurs across all boundaries, irrespective of ethnic groups, or socio economic statuses. Perhaps, as the story unfolds and the court comes to its conclusion, we could wonder whether we really want to present this culture as anything worth aspiring to, or even taking much interest in.

(THIS IS MY PERSONAL OPINION)

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Things that Inspires me

Inspiration: Stimulation of the mind or emotions to a high level of feeling or activity.Flowers

What inspires you? What inspires you to be e better person or to seek the unknown? It can be something as simple as a blooming flower or as profound as an insight that changes the way you view life. In these times, with a volatile economy, the wars on crime and drugs, the high divorce rate, the abandonment of children, we can all certainly use a little inspiration!

My List; Let’s start at the beginning:

-Babies: There is something about the innocence of a baby, they’re tiny, chubby cheeks, perfectly developed fingers and toes, their little pink tongues, and their innate knowledge that they are safe in their mother’s arms, that’s inspiring.

-Love: The love I feel for myself and for others allows me to constantly work to be a better person. Little expressions of love and respect that are witnessed between two people who do not know they being watched are just inspiring.

-My Country: Yes, we have our fair share of political drama, crime, our not-so-good national soccer team, but we do have a beautiful country, our diverse cultures and phenomenal people.Becoming a better citizen gives me hope for a better generation to follow.

-Seasons: The changing of seasons-out with the old, in with the new; tiny blooms, hot sun and crisp autumn leaves, all evoke strong feelings of new beginnings and helps me to remember that change is good and inevitable.

-Art: Art of all kinds, paintings, music, or poetry, can unite and inspire humanity and can comfort and restore the lonely and exploited souls.

-Books: As a lover of books, I cannot resist the smell of the pages in a new book! It is warm and crisp and oddly sweet and dusty. It creates an excitement knowing each chapter holds new inspiration.

-Random acts of kindness: A door being held open for me when I’m 10 feet away, a helping hand when mine are  full, even a smile of acknowledgement all inspire me to “pay it forward” and help the next person.

-Excercise: Ah!If I could just bottle that feeling I get from a good run, I could conquer the world, or at least that pile of washing that was left in the basket, not ironed!

-Writing: The inner workings of my mind as I process thoughts into written words. It often inspires deeper thinking, a looking inward, and constant re-evaluation of who I am and who I want to be.

-Healthy senior citizens: Now this is something that I could see a hundred times a day, and feel inspired a little more each time.When I’m at the gym, seeing an older person run twice the distance that I did, or gliding on the elliptical like it’s natural (I hate that thing!) That’s inspiration right there!

Inspiration comes in so many forms and most times when you least expect it. What inspires you? Seek and find your inspiration and then spread your wings and soar!

Time to Clean Up

It’almost that time of the year, where we bid farewell to the year that was. For some it was good, for others, not so good, for rest…..well, we’ll have a better one next year.

I find this time of the year the perfect time to clean up. (And I don’t mean just the clutter!)
I try to set time aside to clean up emotionally and mentally too. Letting go of past hurts, anger, all the not so nice feelings and emotions that I have managed to accumulate over the past year. I have come up with a method to this. I put pen to paper! The old fashion way! I write down events or conversations that has angered me, or caused any emotion that affected me in a negative way. I then relook at it, and ask myself if it is really worth holding on to? Most of the time, the negative emotion is not triggered after writing it, then I know it’s just my mind holding on to something that it thinks is there. (That probably doesn’t even make any sense).

I find it important to start off on a clean slate.
As we clear out, we make room for new stuff, as it does nothing for us other than weigh us down physically as well as emotionally. Letting go, gives one inner peace. The kind of peace that you see in children. The kind of peace that make you appreciate life! The kind of peace that everyone human being should have.