When Life Takes Over

It seems like a lifetime since my last post.  This after I committed to write 2 posts every month last year. This year, however, I am not re committing as I know I will fail miserably…….. Again.

There’s this famous John Lennon quote, “Life happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”

I’ve heard and read this quote many a times, but it’s only after the past few months that I’ve realised the true meaning of it.  We’re so busy making plans, months in advance, that we forget about the here and now. And when our plans don’t go accordingly, we end up disappointed.

Some time last year, (well in fact every year) I made all these plans for Mr M and I, as to how we’ll be spending the holidays during December. And so far, every year was a success. Accept for the past December. After having all these plans in place, something was missing from the equation…….Mr M! Life took over, and Mr M spent the entire month working crazy hours (without choice that is). We barely spoke……..I recall a time where I haven’t seen him I three whole days!

But amidst all of this, new friendships were developed, I’ve spent some quality time with my family and I had plenty oc time to self – reflect. Had this happen to me 3 years ago, I would never have seen the positive of it, but rather hang on to the disappointment associated with it. My world was built on routine, mental preparation and planning, planning, planning. I’ve always had the need to be in control. I could not function if every minute of my day was not spent according to my mental schedule. I had to get 8 hours sleep every night (weekends included). Spontaneity never existed for me, because routine was all I knew. It wasn’t until I realised how much living I was missing out on, when I decided to break out of what was my life. At first, it was the most difficult thing to do. And now, yes I make plans, and no, it doesn’t always work out, because as much as we sometimes don’t want to accept it, life will always be in control. Life will always be happening, but I feel happier inside than I’ve ever been. I don’t regret breaking free.

I’ve learned that life’s course cannot be altered to suit our needs and wants. We can, however, alter the way we view things. We can either spend all our time dwelling on the past or we can embrace every living moment and find the one good thing that comes out from every disappointment experienced.