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Open Letter to my Husband

Four years ago today, we became husband and wife. At 25 and 26, we were just madly in love. We didn’t know a lot back the, but we knew one thing for certain; we belonged together. And now, four years later, I can say with absolute certainty, that the past four years has been the best of my life.

I don’t tell you this as often as I should, but I love being your wife. In fact, I am proud to be your wife. You continue to amaze me year after year with your ability to selflessly love me. Like when you insist on starting dinner (even though you’re tired), so I can have an early shower and relax.

You would do anything for me. You put up with me and my shenanigans day in and day out. Like my unexplained moodiness, and for that, you deserve more than a blog post; you deserve a trophy.

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You were always the one telling me “you can” when I didn’t think I could, the one telling me “you will” when I didn’t think I would. You have supported me through every new venture I’ve taken on (and they change very frequently), all without blinking an eye or making me feel guilty. From pushing me to get my diploma in events management, to auditioning for Masterchef, and the list goes on and on! I would not be where I am today, doing what I’m doing, and chasing my dreams, if it were not for you. That is a fact. You have been my rock, my coach in the corner, my confidence builder, and my daily encouragement, for four whole years. Thank you for believing in me, and helping me believe in myself.

We’re on a new journey now, you and I, and there’s nobody I’d rather be learning and sharing with than you. We might be great apart, but we’re even better together.

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You’re an amazing friend, and even better husband. Our marriage is far from perfect,but I honestly believe it gets better and better with each passing day. Thank you for loving me the way you do. Here’s to growing old and grey together! I love you Mr M, always have and always will!

Happy Anniversary

Increase your quality of Life

It helps to know what ‘quality of life’ means to you. It’s an intensely personal question. Your vision of quality may differ from that of mine, and that’s what makes the world such an intriguing beast. We’re fascinating in our differences.

I may value connections, authenticity and adventure; dream of kids, a thriving business, founding a charity, and you might be driven by success, learning and independence; you won’t be complete until you hit CEO and make Forbes list.
I have decided to put down the things that I think can increase any life;

1. Spend time with your thoughts. Call it what you want, meditation, time out, whatever. I think it’s important to take time to reflect as this helps to put things into perspective.

2. Learn something new. I’m not saying go learn a new language (which isn’t a bad idea), but read up on something that you wouldn’t normally read, and share this with someone, (trust me, your brain will thank you) and give yourself an instant confidence boost!

3. Leave the routine. Even for just a minute a day. (And that’s coming straight from a Routine QUEEN!) Truth be told, when I do break out of it, it feels really good! (It’s still hard to bend the “rules” though).

4. Spend time outside. This is something I love to do, although I don’t  I get to do it as much as I would like to. I personally feel that this simple act instantly reduces stress.

5. Give yourself. Mentor, contribute, practice random acts of kindness, express gratitude. Give your time, be fully present for your family, change the world. There are a million ways to give of yourself. Do it big, do it small, just do it.  It’s one of the most positive equations in the world: You give of your time or resources, which improves someone’s quality of life, which makes you feel needed and valuable, which in turn improves your quality of life. We’re all better off.  Magic.

6. Connect with people. We are social beings. Pay special attention to your family, your partner, your friends, and your colleagues.  Explore and strengthen your connection to a Higher Power.  And be open enough to enjoy the spontaneous connections that come from making a new friend at the gym or sharing a witty remark with stranger at the supermarket.  Genuine curiosity and kindness are an amazing way to foster connections.

7. Celebrate. We all need a healthy dose of play in our lives. this fuels our creativity and feeds our spirits. Celebrating is a wonderful way to share love. Celebrate with traditions, with heartfelt compliments, with notes in lunch bags, with surprises, with big evenings out, or with cozy evenings in.

8. Recognize what makes you happy. Reflect on the parts of your day that bring you real satisfaction. Everyone is working towards something, but what makes you happy now? Try to incorporate more of what made you happy yesterday into today.

9. Love yourself. Treat your body with respect and care. Help yourself age well by staying flexible, protecting your skin from sun and exercising your mind.  Most importantly, sleep well.

10. DO NOT STRESS!

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Learning to be Happy

Although most people believe happiness is essential, it is often dependent on factors outside of themselves.
From what I have learned, is that happiness has less to do with your circumstances! And all the happiness you will ever need resides within you. Finding happiness within, is not discovered overnight, nor is it something that is taught to you. But it can be discovered by changing our thinking and habits.Here I will share a few of my guidelines used on my journey to being happy!

Be the optimist – After reading The Secret in 2006, I have made a decision; I will never, or at least try, to never be the pessimist. The Laws of Attraction made a lot of sense, and I decided, that is how I will go through life. By being the optimist, I choose to see the bright side. All the obstacles or hard times I’m faced with is seen as temporary. And yes, sometimes it’s not easy, but I’ve learned to respond to life’s challenges with confidence knowing that I can handle them. When problems or challenges are resolved,I usually look back on them and try to make sense of it, sort of, find the meaning and purpose. By doing this, I noticed that each obstacle or challenge makes it easier to be optimistic about, because I know that they’re there for a reason, even if I may not know what it is now.

Happiness is a choice – Choose to be happy! To increase inner happiness, I have learnt to make a deliberate decision to do so. A lot of times we blame others for our unhappiness. And we are all guilty of that, we have all blamed parents, teachers, bosses, because it’s easier to push the responsibility onto someone else. Stop! We alone are responsible for our actions, and reactions! Whether we’re in unhappy relationships, or unhappy in our jobs, the unhappiness still lies within ourselves. You have a choice, to stay and be unhappy, or change your attitude! And the attitude comes from within. And its this attitude that determines whether we’re going to be happy or not!

Clear the clutter – This is by far one of the hardest things to do, but its well worth it – Clear your mental clutter!and make more room for happiness. Of all the things that require your mental energy, make the distinction between things that are really important and things that are not. Actively release thoughts, worries, resentments, etc. that consume your mental space. Without unnecessary things to clutter your mind, you’ll have more room for things that add to your joy.

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Live your Bliss – We all have that one or two things that makes us extremely happy! If you still do not know what it is, take time out, observe yourself, learn what makes you truly happy, and add more of it to your life. It is that simple.
Recognize your passion, respect your goals! Find things that bring you happiness, and do them in your own unique way.

Stop comparing – And trying to keep up with the Joneses. That is the number one cause of our own unhappiness. Having things might make you appear trendy and happy to everyone else, but it doesn’t make you happy inside. But happiness, as the saying goes, is not in getting what you want, but in wanting what you already have!

Give – I saved this one for last, because this one is the easiest, and hardest!(for many people) By giving, it doesn’t have to have any monetary value. It can be anything from a compliment to a smile, a hug or a pat on the back! When you make someone else happy, you find yourself being twice as happy inside!

You now know how to find happiness within yourself, and it is something you can access all the time regardless of your circumstance or situation. Be an optimist, intentionally choose to be happy, clear your mind of unnecessary clutter, and find ways to nurture your own unique bliss. This simple strategy will allow you to access your inner joy at all times.