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I want to be a Phenomenal Woman

This past weekend Mr M and I attended the 50th birthday party of an exceptional woman. And after leaving the party, I have started thinking really hard, about me, not just as a person,but as a woman.

Whilst listening to the great speeches, I wondered: What would people say about me, as a woman, when I celebrate 50?

AA-women1-300x218I might not know what will be said then, but I do know what I would like to hear. Every woman has the potential to become a phenomenal woman. It doesn’t happen overnight, but working on ourselves day-to-day will ensure that when we reach 50, we can say, “I am a phenomenal woman; and I have lived my best life”

Then you ask, what is a phenomenal woman? We all might have our own interpretations, I came across this that pretty much sums it up;

A phenomenal woman is purposeful and passionate. She is driven by her thoughts, and makes her thoughts a reality. She has imperfections, but it’s what she does with her imperfections that make her phenomenal. She is always true to herself. She doesn’t have to be a certain size or shape. Religion, age, sexual orientation, the family she was born into, or the colour of her skin do not matter. She is strong, yet weak, and struggles with her own identity from time to time. She is true to her voice and inner self. She is resourceful and honest. She is brutal at times, forcing her way into the worlds reality. (Taken from Phenomenal Women: The Empowerment of YOU Loretta A. Cella)

I feel the need to make this a personal journey. Afterall, I have 20 years to prepare for my 50th celebration.

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Increase your quality of Life

It helps to know what ‘quality of life’ means to you. It’s an intensely personal question. Your vision of quality may differ from that of mine, and that’s what makes the world such an intriguing beast. We’re fascinating in our differences.

I may value connections, authenticity and adventure; dream of kids, a thriving business, founding a charity, and you might be driven by success, learning and independence; you won’t be complete until you hit CEO and make Forbes list.
I have decided to put down the things that I think can increase any life;

1. Spend time with your thoughts. Call it what you want, meditation, time out, whatever. I think it’s important to take time to reflect as this helps to put things into perspective.

2. Learn something new. I’m not saying go learn a new language (which isn’t a bad idea), but read up on something that you wouldn’t normally read, and share this with someone, (trust me, your brain will thank you) and give yourself an instant confidence boost!

3. Leave the routine. Even for just a minute a day. (And that’s coming straight from a Routine QUEEN!) Truth be told, when I do break out of it, it feels really good! (It’s still hard to bend the “rules” though).

4. Spend time outside. This is something I love to do, although I don’t  I get to do it as much as I would like to. I personally feel that this simple act instantly reduces stress.

5. Give yourself. Mentor, contribute, practice random acts of kindness, express gratitude. Give your time, be fully present for your family, change the world. There are a million ways to give of yourself. Do it big, do it small, just do it.  It’s one of the most positive equations in the world: You give of your time or resources, which improves someone’s quality of life, which makes you feel needed and valuable, which in turn improves your quality of life. We’re all better off.  Magic.

6. Connect with people. We are social beings. Pay special attention to your family, your partner, your friends, and your colleagues.  Explore and strengthen your connection to a Higher Power.  And be open enough to enjoy the spontaneous connections that come from making a new friend at the gym or sharing a witty remark with stranger at the supermarket.  Genuine curiosity and kindness are an amazing way to foster connections.

7. Celebrate. We all need a healthy dose of play in our lives. this fuels our creativity and feeds our spirits. Celebrating is a wonderful way to share love. Celebrate with traditions, with heartfelt compliments, with notes in lunch bags, with surprises, with big evenings out, or with cozy evenings in.

8. Recognize what makes you happy. Reflect on the parts of your day that bring you real satisfaction. Everyone is working towards something, but what makes you happy now? Try to incorporate more of what made you happy yesterday into today.

9. Love yourself. Treat your body with respect and care. Help yourself age well by staying flexible, protecting your skin from sun and exercising your mind.  Most importantly, sleep well.

10. DO NOT STRESS!

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