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Be Thankful

I came across the following words in an e-mail, and I just thought that I should share it.

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Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship.
It’s not about how we care in the beginning, but how much we grow and nourish one another in a relationship.
Some people always throw stones in your path.
It depends on you what you do with them – build a wall or a bridge?
Remember you are the architect of your life.
Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face, because beautiful things won’t last forever, but a golden heart does and will prosper you and add value to yourself.
It’s not important to hold all the good cards in life.
But it’s important how well you play the cards which you hold.
Often when we lose all hope and think this is the end, the universe whispers, ‘Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end.’
Have faith, keep faith and see what the universe will do for you.
Be thankful – It’s the least you can do!

Self – Trust

3504915627_5f034371f81As women, we sometimes fall into the trap of letting others control us, help us make decisions. We do this for various reasons, but what I have personally discovered, is that the common cause of this is lack of self-trust.

When we lose that self-trust, we begin to listen to others, who might not always have our best interests at heart. Surely they might love us and want what’s best for us, but the truth is, they simply don’t know.

How could they know?

After all, you are the only person who know’s what’s best for you. You’re the only one who knows what you want. But if you give your power away due to lack of self-trust, who know’s where you would end up in your life.

In order for you to live your best life you must, totally, without a doubt, trust yourself. You are going to have to make hard decisions in your life that are going to require that you listen to yourself.

144011-425x282-spiritual-woman-meditatingIn about the first two years of my marriage, I was so focused on doing “the right thing”, that I totally lost my self-trust. Perhaps it was because I’ve messed up in the past, made some mistakes and took chances that didn’t work out. I needed constant reassurance regarding decisions that I had to make. I do not regret any of the decisions that I have made, it’s just that I have grown now, grown to a point where I can stand up for what I believe in, trust myself wholly. We’re now at a point in our marriage, where we’re each other’s cheerleaders, sidekicks. Where we can focus on ourselves and what’s important to us as individuals, yet still have an incredible support system.

The only way to gain back that trust, is by acting on your beliefs. If you believe in something with all your heart, don’t ask people what they think. Don’t second guess yourself because it seems scary and uncomfortable.

Nothing will help us overcome our fear of the unknown except trust in ourselves. Build a deep, loving relationship with yourself, built around trust and appreciation. No one else is going to do it for you.

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Open Letter to my Husband

Four years ago today, we became husband and wife. At 25 and 26, we were just madly in love. We didn’t know a lot back the, but we knew one thing for certain; we belonged together. And now, four years later, I can say with absolute certainty, that the past four years has been the best of my life.

I don’t tell you this as often as I should, but I love being your wife. In fact, I am proud to be your wife. You continue to amaze me year after year with your ability to selflessly love me. Like when you insist on starting dinner (even though you’re tired), so I can have an early shower and relax.

You would do anything for me. You put up with me and my shenanigans day in and day out. Like my unexplained moodiness, and for that, you deserve more than a blog post; you deserve a trophy.

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You were always the one telling me “you can” when I didn’t think I could, the one telling me “you will” when I didn’t think I would. You have supported me through every new venture I’ve taken on (and they change very frequently), all without blinking an eye or making me feel guilty. From pushing me to get my diploma in events management, to auditioning for Masterchef, and the list goes on and on! I would not be where I am today, doing what I’m doing, and chasing my dreams, if it were not for you. That is a fact. You have been my rock, my coach in the corner, my confidence builder, and my daily encouragement, for four whole years. Thank you for believing in me, and helping me believe in myself.

We’re on a new journey now, you and I, and there’s nobody I’d rather be learning and sharing with than you. We might be great apart, but we’re even better together.

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You’re an amazing friend, and even better husband. Our marriage is far from perfect,but I honestly believe it gets better and better with each passing day. Thank you for loving me the way you do. Here’s to growing old and grey together! I love you Mr M, always have and always will!

Happy Anniversary