Archive | March 2013

Be Thankful

I came across the following words in an e-mail, and I just thought that I should share it.

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Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship.
It’s not about how we care in the beginning, but how much we grow and nourish one another in a relationship.
Some people always throw stones in your path.
It depends on you what you do with them – build a wall or a bridge?
Remember you are the architect of your life.
Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face, because beautiful things won’t last forever, but a golden heart does and will prosper you and add value to yourself.
It’s not important to hold all the good cards in life.
But it’s important how well you play the cards which you hold.
Often when we lose all hope and think this is the end, the universe whispers, ‘Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end.’
Have faith, keep faith and see what the universe will do for you.
Be thankful – It’s the least you can do!

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Self – Trust

3504915627_5f034371f81As women, we sometimes fall into the trap of letting others control us, help us make decisions. We do this for various reasons, but what I have personally discovered, is that the common cause of this is lack of self-trust.

When we lose that self-trust, we begin to listen to others, who might not always have our best interests at heart. Surely they might love us and want what’s best for us, but the truth is, they simply don’t know.

How could they know?

After all, you are the only person who know’s what’s best for you. You’re the only one who knows what you want. But if you give your power away due to lack of self-trust, who know’s where you would end up in your life.

In order for you to live your best life you must, totally, without a doubt, trust yourself. You are going to have to make hard decisions in your life that are going to require that you listen to yourself.

144011-425x282-spiritual-woman-meditatingIn about the first two years of my marriage, I was so focused on doing “the right thing”, that I totally lost my self-trust. Perhaps it was because I’ve messed up in the past, made some mistakes and took chances that didn’t work out. I needed constant reassurance regarding decisions that I had to make. I do not regret any of the decisions that I have made, it’s just that I have grown now, grown to a point where I can stand up for what I believe in, trust myself wholly. We’re now at a point in our marriage, where we’re each other’s cheerleaders, sidekicks. Where we can focus on ourselves and what’s important to us as individuals, yet still have an incredible support system.

The only way to gain back that trust, is by acting on your beliefs. If you believe in something with all your heart, don’t ask people what they think. Don’t second guess yourself because it seems scary and uncomfortable.

Nothing will help us overcome our fear of the unknown except trust in ourselves. Build a deep, loving relationship with yourself, built around trust and appreciation. No one else is going to do it for you.

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South Africa has been making international headlines over recent months.

The last time the country grabbed global attention to this extent, was when Nelson Mandela was released from prison and during the first democratic election in 1994.

More recently, the Marikana blood-bath, the rape scourge, “Blade runner” Oscar Pistorius killing his model girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp and the Daveyton police brutality incident have tainted our image locally and abroad.

South Africa has made the headlines across the world for all the wrong reasons over recent months – and even locally many appear to be disillusioned about what has been happening.

Speak to family, friends and colleagues in other parts of the world and the first thing they ask is what is happening in South Africa.

I travelled to the US late last year, weeks after the Marikana incident. People were constantly asking about the many mine workers who were shot…

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