Facing the Fear of Death with Eyes Wide Open

If there exists one experience that, throughout history, around the world, generation after generation, binds mankind together, it is death. Death is something we all must face — no exercise or diet regimen, no meditation techniques, no amount of money can avoid it. It is the great equalizer.

To me, this is a topic I choose to not think about too often. The one thing I do think about though, is not dying. I don’t want to die! At least not now! I still want to have kids, put them through school, play soccer with them, watch them on their first dates. I want to grow as a person. I still have so much to do. I’m not ready – But then, who is?

Death forces us to let go of everything. We must accept this and go peacefully. If we cling to people, or to things, or to our hopes and dreams, then death will be a moment of agony. We don’t know what will happen next, but it makes sense to accept the inevitable, and let death be a peaceful letting go.

We fear death because we spend our lives clinging to things of this world. We strive for more money, we bond with friends, and most of all, we become attached to that voice in our head that we call “me”. We see our happiness as being dependent on these things, and conveniently ignore the grim reality that it could all end in an instant, for death can come at any time.

Seeing that no one knows how much time we have left, it’s best to start living, today, if you have just been alive all this time. DO NOT take people or TIME for granted. It can be snatched away from us at any given time.


50 Shades of Darker

So yes, I have not had a lot of positive to say about 50SoG a week ago, but I found myself in guilty addiction mode, and immediately started 50SoD.

 Okay, so. The end of 50SoG, when we last left Christian and Ana, she had walked out on him, horrified at the depravity entailed in his life of BDSM. (Go ahead and Google THAT, people. I had to, so you might as well.)

As the second installment in Fifty Shades, what I got was much better editing, gradual and in-depth character development, and a teensy bit of frustration. On its own, this book was entertaining, well-written, and a breeze to read…I have to admit that I have enjoyed it more than the first. (I think it’s because now the love aspect comes into play)

I was more entranced with the story, so for me to enjoy it better, I started skipping all the “erotic” bits, which does become monotonous and predictable. I wanted to find out what happens next, as Ana and Christian’s relationship begins to grow, and the two cannot deny their feelings for each other. It ended where the pair gets engaged.

And then I started with 50SoF (50 Shades of Freed).  Only 2 chapters in though.




51 Shades of Disappointment

I am really not a romance novel enthusiast, but l found myself getting caught up in the 50 Shades of Grey frenzy, and curious, I wanted to know what the fuss was all about, so I went and got me the trilogy. Preferring hardbacks to e-books, here’s my take on 50SoG.

It was an interesting concept – for a “romance” novel. However,
The story is weak,
The writing is appalling
The pace is slow and awkward,
The characters come across as bipolar and not at all complicated,
The “romance” is juvenile.
The “erotic” scenes seem to have been written by a painfully shy and sheltered 13-year-old.
The repetition of words becomes unbearable…….Holy crap, holy shit, holy cow, holy hell, jeez, flush, blush, I find my equilibrium, murmur, whisper…….the list is endless
I think Ana has chewed away her bottom lip by the 5th chapter,
Really? “He’s fifty shades of fucked up”; “I’m 7 shades of crimson”,

The good:
Nice cover art,
I understand why women everywhere are going gaga over this book, given, that it has sold 5 million copies in its first week making it the highest selling book of all time in the UK;
If I were 13, this would have been the best book I have ever read.
It’s every “girls’” dream to have a “white” knight or in Christians case “dark” knight, that is beyond handsome, is a self-made billionaire, not millionaire, billionaire (at 26!), he’s attracted to YOU and you’re shy, inexperienced and clumsy.He spends money on you, and you are not a whore!

Sounds perfect right?

Oh did I mention, he is a pianist, pilot, (he owns a helicopter and jet), and fluent in French!

Bottom line, I’m 51 Shades of Disappointed at the level of maturity or lack thereof, which was depicted in the first book. Two chapters to go, along with Fifty Shades Darker, and Fifty Shades Freed……(Which I intend on reading anyway)

Celebrate Yourself: Become your own best friend

It’s funny that we think we’ll help ourselves by being hard on ourselves, when most people would never try to help their friends or children that way. Here’s my way of letting that little voice inside my head be my best friend and not worst enemy!

  • You don’t have to be perfect; You don’t expect your friends to be perfect, do you? You’re human, too. Nobody can be perfect. Be realistic in your expectations of yourself.
  • You don’t have to know everything; When you encounter something you don’t know, you can see it as a threat, or you can see it as a chance to learn and grow. It’s easy to be threatened by things you don’t know if you take their existence to mean you’re inadequate. But it’s impossible to know everything! What’s more, if you take the opportunity to learn when you’re presented with new things, you make yourself more skilled, more knowledgeable, and more awesome all the time.
  • You can ask for help; This was a tough one for me–I always hated admitting I didn’t know something or couldn’t do everything myself. That would mean I wasn’t perfect! But the reality is, nobody can do everything alone. If you ask for help, people won’t think you’re weak. Accepting help from people you know is actually a great way to get closer.
  • Falling short doesn’t mean you’re stupid or bad; You can do better next time without beating yourself up. Look at what went wrong and see what you can learn from it, but don’t wallow in it or let it stop you.

In order to be your own best friend, you must learn to develop the same kind of tolerant goodwill, positive attitude and love toward yourself that you feel toward people whom you treasure as friends.


Celebrate Yourself: What makes you feel good?

In commemoration of Women’s Month, I thought it would be great to share some feel good stuff….Just for us, women! In our busy lives, trying to juggle work, family, homes, friends, and everything else in-between, our well-being takes a knock. We take care of everyone and everything else besides ourselves. 

Now, we all have a weakness, whether it’s getting a manicure done, those killer heels that you’ve had your eye on, taking that hour-long bath, or watching a series marathon of your favourite tv show. It’s important for us to take this time out for ourselves and DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. So, for the next month, we WILL make the time or take it to do something special just for us.

Happy Women’s Month!

Go on, spoil yourself – And share what you do to make you feel good!


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